….It has almost been a week since my last blog. I guess I could say I haven’t blogged because I was extremely busy or I had an emergency….none of these were the case. I haven’t blogged because I just didn’t want to. Sometimes you just get in a place where you just don’t feel like doing to much of anything…and that has been me for the past week. I actually have been busy this past week, but I had several opportunities to blog….hey, at least I missed ya’ll! This is kind of long…and I don’t mean to be preachy or deliver a sermon, but sometimes you gotta do what you gotta do…part 3 of ?????
With today being Motivational Thursday, I think I will stay with the current theme of “moving”. I want to tell you about a situation with #1 and maybe….just maybe we can tie this all in together. I love my children so much…it is crazy. I know you are probably thinking that is normal, but the love I have for my children is so intense now. It seems weird, but since my wife passed away months back, it is like I’m more cognizant of everything with my children. It is like I have to love them more….for both parents. Maybe I am overcompensating….man, I dunno.
#1 has his first “real” game of the season tonight. They scrimmaged last week and I was amped about how dude played. He did his thing out there. Even though it is only Middle School football, some of the parents act like these cats are playing for the Vince Lombardi trophy (that is the Superbowl trophy if you don’t know). I mean it just is not that serious. Don’t get me wrong, I’ll be the one of the first to get in my son’s grill if he is not performing up to his capabilities ( I guess that is the coach in me)…but I won’t go overboard….when dealing with 11-13 year olders you have to know your limits. I know everyone wants a winner….me too, I can’t stand to lose….and those that know me will tell you that I am the consummate competitor, but you still have to understand that these children are still learning the game.
Okay…here we go…#1 is my namesake so I will call him Dew Jr….we call him DJ for short. This dude has a crazy amount of talent, but he can sometimes be lazy. He is not a practice player….I repeat…He is not a practice player. We moved to this school system just about two years ago when he was in fifth grade. He has always played football and baseball, but he hasn’t played for the football for the past two seasons. Number one because he played running back and has taken a ton of hits for basically four years. He started playing when he was in kindergarten. Number two, I just did not want him to get burned out on it. Giving him a season or two off rested his body and also made him hungry to play. Finally, my wife was getting sicker, so we just didn’t have the time to shuttle back and forth between practice.
Let me speed this up a little….so there is your background. Now it is football season and he is ready. He wants to play for his Middle School team…I’m like cool….I’ll support him with whatever he wants to do. It is August and we hadn’t received anything about the start of football conditioning….so I call up to the school and they had actually started practice. They were three days into it. I talk to the coach and I get him to practice….so he is at a disadvantage…he didn’t grow up through this football program and he is behind the 8-ball with conditioning. Mind you that he has always played running back and linebacker….so the coaches take one look at him and they change his position. Dude is thick though…really solid. He is going to start lifting weights with me this off season….He is already strong as all get out, so man you can imagine. He is pretty upset that they changed his position, but the coaches did not know him. Fast forward now, they are two weeks into practice and he is doing just enough to get by…so the coaches throw him on Red team. The Red team is basically second string…they call their first team Black….okay…I’m really trying to speed this up. I go to just about all of his practice. I just park and watch from a distance. I really just observe…I watch everything. I only offer my opinion IF DJ asks me what did I see or what can he change. He actually does a great job asking for advice. I basically lay back UNLESS he is just lallygagging….and then I will call him on it after practice….but that is few and far between. I would notice that it is this one coach that is always talking to him…literally after every play. So I asked DJ what was going on…he said the coach was helping him out. If you ever have coached before you see things in certain players….you tend to stay on them more…that is just the nature of the beast. DJ had been out of football for two seasons now, so it was kind of hard from him to get adjusted back to the speed and violence of the game. He has the body for it, but those muscles had not be worked like that in awhile. Even though he stayed active by playing baseball (I actually think he is better in baseball), the level of intensity is miles apart. Conditioning was hard for him. He would come home sore and limping….just worn out. All the running and conditioning took a toll on his body….and the fatigue was affecting his judgment too….but as the days passed, things started to get easier for him. The drills and conditioning started to help….but he was like in this stagnant place…while some of the other players were progressing he was progressing but not moving at the pace he should be. That was because of his flying under the radar attitude….doing just enough not to get yelled at.
So I noticed this…and one thing about being a father….there is one thing that I will not tolerate….half doing something. My children know that I would rather them not do something, then to half do it. What I decided to do is after practice, DJ would do some extra work at home (I actually run every sprint and drill with him)…about 20-25 minutes are so. We work on foot agility drills, we run this hill about 15 times outside our place….we do quick sprints to work on speed….you know things to get him moving. His problem is that he does not pickup his knees when he runs….so he is moving, but not up to his full capability. Here we are now….After just two weeks of extra practice at home…DJ was named a starter on both sides of the ball for the first game of the season….by hard-work, determination and movement….It is a saying that I frequently use as a coach. You play how you practice. If look at a teams practice, that’ll tell you how successful that team is. This philosophy can be used in any aspect of life…
I say all of that to setup this little bit here…..Movement is part of the evolution process. You have to be able to move and adapt to whatever your situation is. He we go now….you see DJ was getting just enough from his coaches. Even though the coaches tried hard, they only could get him to a certain point…feel me? DJ needed his father to give him that guidance and direction to push on over the top. Okay, let me say this in a different way…this is what we do to our Father…we go to other coaches (friends) to seek advice for situations….instead of going to our Father (God) for the ultimate solution. He conditions us…he makes us move our feet…lift up our knees when we are tired. One thing I notice about my son…he reacts to his coach, but if I stand up and raise MY voice, he perks up and gets the job done. We do the same thing….we move when we hear our Father’s voice….commence to marination time.
Stop seeking other coaches for advice….Seek our Father, it’ll make thinks alot easier.