…letting a person go. Every so often…and I am willing to bet a dollar to a dime that we all come to a point when we must end a “ship” in our life. Some are easier than other to walk away from. Today, I was faced with an ultimate decision…should I keep a person in my life…or should I continue to subscribe to these internal emotions that I have suppressed on the inside of me and ignored for an extraordinary amount of time. Before I made the decision a number of things entered into my mind (and I will come back to this at another point).
“When I let go of what I am, I become what I might be.” – Lao Tzu
Just the other day I wrote a post about Seasons, Reasons, and Lifetimes. The crazy thing is…I was oblivious to the fact that this blog would come back and speak to me. Life is an amazing thing I tell you. People in your life are even more amazing. Just take a moment to think about all the people who you encounter on a daily basis…how many people you pour into physical, mentally, emotionally, spiritually…and vice versa…people that do the same things to you. The number is quite alarming. The funny thing is…at times we don’t even have a clue that we accomplish these things for others.
Courage is the power to let go of the familiar.– Raymond Lindquist
Sometimes the hardest thing to do…is letting a person go. Pulling the trigger on a “ship” is like a game of never-ending tug-of-war…it doesn’t seem like anyone would be victorious. It’s like you are playing this balancing act between your heart and mind…and anytime that is the case…you’re in trouble. The heart can make the mind feel something it can’t understand…and the mind can make the heart understand something that it can’t feel (think about that for a second). but just because a person is riding your bus, doesn’t mean that they are to get off at your bus stop. That goes back to slotting people accordingly. I believe life is about many things…but a fundamental attribute to living is joy and being successful via making the correct decisions. Choosing the right people to encompass you is a slippery slope…one must have a strong sense of discernment. If you can’t discern properly, that is how seasonal people get lifetime privileges.
“Change is never easy, you fight to hold on, and you fight to let go.” – The Wonder Years
Remember this…when progressing in life…have the ability to make the correct cuts. Removing folks out of your life is not mean…it is necessary for progression. Example if you are a recovering drug addict…chances for full-blown recovery are better if you associate yourself with people who are not addicted to drugs. It is foolish to keep yourself around the same people you did before when you were getting high. Relapse is a real possibility if so. Congregate with people who strive for you to be a better person. Leaving situations behind is the harsh reality of life…don’t be afraid to make the pertinent cuts…its okay…God has many band-aids for the wounded. What happens when you don’t let people go…you handcuff your reality and insist on living a perception of your life. It’s hard to go…but I gotta leave. Don’t be afraid to let people you know, become people you knew.
“There are things that we never want to let go of, people we never want to leave behind. But keep in mind that letting go isn’t the end of the world, it’s the beginning of a new life.” –Unknown