Dew’s Blog has always claimed to be an opportunity blog you know…so after posting my blog from yesterday I received some extremely interesting feedback about it. Much of it was positive…but you know I caught a little flack…so in fairness I decided to post a Top 10 blog I received from a friend that is the polar opposite of mine. I do want to clarify my stance…in no way, shape, form or fashion did I purposely intent to come of chauvinistic, degrading or full of bull excrement. Even though this was for entertainment purposes only, I truly believe that some of list can be beneficial when relating to a man. I will post the list and add my comments as needed…without further ado I present to you… Top 10 Things You SHOULD do/say to a man….
Top 10 Things You SHOULD do/say to a man….
10. Never admit that your wrong. Okay…I have a slight problem with this one. How is this beneficial in a relationship? Not admitting guilt seems to be somewhat juvenile in nature. If I am wrong I will admit my fault…point blank. This practice needs to be reciprocated for any long lasting, stable and healthy relationship. Let’s see…its two of us in the house…if I didn’t do it…who else did? I dunno….maybeeeeee Casper did…lol…Just joking ladies. I can see this point of view, but no relationship can prosper with this mentality.
9. Reward and punish with “cookies.” How else will he learn? WOW…again…not in agreement…but if you have that type of relationship then I can understand. Basically that seems like a form off manipulation. If I do good…then you put it on me…if I’m bad then you take it away. Sounds like what my mother used to do to me with my Nintendo back in the day. Be very careful though…a less of a man might seek to frequent another establishment. Nabisco doesn’t make the only cookies in town.
8. Demand a JOB from yo man or that he be actively seeking one! Now this one I agree with A LOT…except for the fact that I think that there are exceptions to every rule. I’ll inject myself into this situation…I was a warehouse/logistics manager for several years. A year after my wife passed away I decided to finish my dual degrees (actually bachelor’s in history and business management…master’s in history and eventually doctorate) I worked 50 plus hours a week (not just work…managed an entire warehouse and controlled every logistical aspect of it), went to school full-time, took care of my terminally-ill wife and two children. Now as of June of 2009, I stop working and continued with my education. There are things outside of logistics that I want to obtain. I went back to school for not only myself…but to show my children it is possible and to live out the dream my wife and I had. Okay if you said a man with no direction…then I would completely agree.
7. Seek a fictional character exhibiting any and personality traits/characteristics that “you have always dreamed of” (I.e.: Edward Cullen). I don’t even know who he is…but I think one should seek out qualities of those tangible people…I.e.: Michelle Obama, Oprah Winphrey…etc.
6. Never believe yo man when he says..”she’s just a friend” I agree with this slightly as well…but for the record men and women can strictly have a plutonic relationship.
5. Never believe yo man when he says..”she’s only my baby momma” Hmmm…interesting if a woman is dealing with a man that refers to his “child’s mother” as a baby momma…then you probably need to throw him to the curb anyway…Baby Momma itself is a degrading and demeaning term.
4. Always have the upper hand! Control needs to be established. WTF?!?!? Control needs to be established. This is not OSU vs. Michigan! If a person feels the need to establish control then are you really in a relationship?…sounds more like a dictatorship. Control is shared…it is duality in nature. Maybe understanding and respect might apply here more.
3. Apply the 3 strike rule! Now this one I actually agree with. A man is only going to do what you allow him to. If he is constantly in violation…then you might have LIG him (Let it Go).
2. Trust actions more than words. Again this is a good one…but again there are exceptions to rules…if a man is visually doing all the right things…what is he doing behind the scenes. “It’s not you I don’t trust, darling. It’s your private thoughts that give me pause.” – Kathy Bates (A Family That Preys)
AND THE #1 RULE IS………
1. Train his A-S-S to be what he should have been when you first met his sorry self!!! Umm ladies…he is not a pet (even though he might have dog tendencies)…if you have to TRAIN HIM TO WHAT HE SHOULD HAVE BEEN…THEN THAT IS NOT A GREAT PICK BY YOU.