Monthly Archives: September 2008

Copy and Paste….

… one of my favorite things.  This small invention has saved me a tremendous amount of time….especially these last few weeks.  Today is Motivational Thursday and I don’t have any scriptures per say, but I do have a few things that I have to say and it just might motivate someone here.  I know some of you are wondering where I’ve been.  I even received several emails from folks that wanted to know what was up.  So bear with me….sit back and enjoy my dysfunction.

Things have been crazy in my personal, educational and professional lives.  The personal life….whew.  That is a conversation for another time.  Just know that Dew….is having some turmoil on the inside of me that is off the chain.  So, from that standpoint I will save that for another post.

Now this copy and paste thing has been working for me lately.  I’ve been so busy…just copy and paste….lol….it’ll get you by.  See this is the thing that has been weighing on me lately.  Hey when you don’t have power for quite some time, you have the opportunity to reflect on things.  That reflection is like a double-edge sword though….it can slice you coming and going.  Well while I was in reflective mode, I thought about how our generation has become so automated.  We are into instant gratification.  I actually remember having this conversation with a few of my friends a few years ago.  Everything is now, now, now.  Everybody wants their income tax refund back now….and are willing to pay two or three hundred dollars to get it….Everybody always are getting pre-approved for something…..We have to run to the ATM (opposed to waiting at the bank)….microwaves, fast-food, cell-phones, same day dry cleaning, even 10 minute oil changes.  We function off of the now.  Without having power, things slowed down for me.  I couldn’t have everything when I wanted it.  The grocery store was running over, even going McDonald’s took roughly a hour and a half.  The McDonald’s thing was weird, because when you are used to getting your food from McDonald’s in 5 minutes and then all of a sudden you are waiting 90 minutes for two dang on double-cheeseburgers….you look at things differently.  I really think we need to be less dependent and more independent…NO, I’m not talking about having no power and living off the land, but just slowing down….turn off the television and radio…talk to your children, read more and spend some quiet time….reflecting…

School had been UGH…I mean my classes are easy, but the power issue threw me for a loop.  I pride myself on being prepared…..but no power man….it just hit me with a curveball when I was thinking fastball….All my professors pushed due dates back, but they coinside with due dates for other assignments.  See this is the problem…I was forced to take online classes this quarter….I really only wanted to take two online classed, but two of my classes got cancelled and thus I’m stuck with 4 online classes.  I don’t know if any of you have ever taken online classes, but it is sooooo much work.  The work is not hard…but it is a ton of reading.  When you don’t have power…it is hard to read in the dark….especially when you children are out of school for a week.

Anywho….I think I have an idea for a new spot here.  I’m thinking it’ll be like a once a month thing.  I’m gonna be like Dr. Abbey, but instead it’ll be called Ask Dew.  You can shower me with all types of questions or comments and I will answer them.  I don’t know….just something different, so I can interact with you more.  So just in case you got bored while reading all of this….I will re-post this later by itself…..BUT if you decided to read it all…here you go.  I don’t care what the question or comment is….just send it to my email… and I’ll respond to them.  Much Love….(no quote of the day)



Posted by on September 25, 2008 in Family, Me, Motivational Thursday, Nothing about Nothing


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Power Please….

….Okay people, I have not been ignoring ya’ll…..and I actually have wanted to blog, but I have been unable to.  I live in Southwestern Ohio and we got hit with the aftermath of Hurricane Ike.  We didn’t get much rain, but the winds were crazy.  Over 680,000 families in my area have been without power since sometime last Sunday.  I just heard on the radio that there are still 105,000 families without.  I feel so blessed, because even though I had to pitch all of the food my fridge and freezer….my family was protected all throughout this time.  I pray for all of those that were less fortunate.  Good bless each of you!  I will continue to pray for you.  I’m back, so expect the regular rotation starting Friday.



Posted by on September 18, 2008 in Family, Nothing about Nothing, Religious


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Back on the grind…

….well I’m officially back people.  I had to take a brief hiatus.  I was off of school for two-weeks so I took the time out to re-charge my batteries.  I stopped being stubborn and I took some advice from my doctor.  Now I did not stop working, but I did just let somethings go.  I decided to do “me” for a couple of weeks.  You can call me MJ now, I have put on the “45” and came out of retirement.  So like a cog rotating, I’m back on the grind.  Everything has been so discombobulated blog wise….so I need to get back to the routine….but today will not be the day.  I want to give you an update of what has been going on in the land of Dew.  I literally have been chillin’…..not doing nothing.  Some days during the past two weeks I actually contemplated on taking a shower…..hahahaha…..hold on now, I did take showers, but a few days I really wasn’t sure…and if I didn’t have to go to work, I would have been a done deal.  Do not act like you haven’t did that before! I call it the Pepe Lepew smell test.  First you put your hands over your mouth in a cupping fashion and blow….then you sniff the arm pits one after another…followed the genital and gluetus maximus  test….hahahahaha, that is so nasty.  Again for the record, I did take showers EVERYDAY!.  I do some lazy stuff from time to time, but when it comes to hygiene that one thing that Dew does not play about.

Today is usually Rewind Wednesday, but that will be back at its regular time next week.  Okay…update time, like I said before, my batteries are recharged.  For those of you that workout, you know after you have had one of those good workouts…and after the workout it is like you have more energy than you had previous to the workout.  I used to workout at 5:30am every morning.  I would feel so refreshed after those workouts…you feel me?  Alright then, this is for those that are married (remember I am a Christian…even though sometimes I fall short)…but I’m being realistic too…maybe I shouldn’t say this…but ooh well, it wouldn’t be Dew if I didn’t say it.  Married people, you know how after you have some good relations with your spouse…well there are two types….the type that put you right to sleep and then there is the kind that is off the chain and it gives you MORE energy…man, makes you wanna go clean something…that is how I feel now.  I feel good.

#1 and #2 have been doing good.  They are both doing great in school.  Even though it is early in the quarter, they have transitioned back to school smoothly.  #2 has just been goofy lately…and actually is starting to become a social butterfly of some sort.  She is going over her friends house more and also when we go to my nephews football games on Friday night, she mingles with her classmates.  Now that #1, that dude has no problem socially.  We go to the games on Friday night and I don’t see him until two minutes left in the game.  #1 has a game tomorrow night, so I’ll give you an update on that.

It is back to school for me….I am taking all internet courses except for a weight training and conditioning class.  I guess it is time for me to get my muscle game on…so I will keep you posted.  I think I might even dedicate a blog to my progress.  Yeah, that’ll work.  I take the class on Saturday mornings (I get out of class early enough before the start of kickoffs), so I think I might do the blog on Saturdays for you weekend warriors.

Rest when you’re weary. Refresh and renew yourself, your body, your mind, your spirit. Then get back to work. Ralph Marston


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Posted by on September 10, 2008 in Family, Me, My Children, Nothing about Nothing, Relationships, Sports


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I haven’t forgot….

….about you.  I just have been busy.  I’ll get back to it today….I have so many things I have to tell you about….some funny, some boring…sprinkle in a little drama…and you’ll be back up to speed with Dew.  So check back later on today.



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You better get your mind right….

….It has almost been a week since my last blog.  I guess I could say I haven’t blogged because I was extremely busy or I had an emergency….none of these were the case.  I haven’t blogged because I just didn’t want to.  Sometimes you just get in a place where you just don’t feel like doing to much of anything…and that has been me for the past week.  I actually have been busy this past week, but I had several opportunities to blog….hey, at least I missed ya’ll! This is kind of long…and I don’t mean to be preachy or deliver a sermon, but sometimes you gotta do what you gotta do…part 3 of ?????

With today being Motivational Thursday, I think I will stay with the current theme of “moving”.  I want to tell you about a situation with #1 and maybe….just maybe we can tie this all in together.  I love my children so much…it is crazy.  I know you are probably thinking that is normal, but the love I have for my children is so intense now.  It seems weird, but since my wife passed away months back, it is like I’m more cognizant of everything with my children.  It is like I have to love them more….for both parents.  Maybe I am overcompensating….man, I dunno.

#1 has his first “real” game of the season tonight.  They scrimmaged last week and I was amped about how dude played.  He did his thing out there.  Even though it is only Middle School football, some of the parents act like these cats are playing for the Vince Lombardi trophy (that is the Superbowl trophy if you don’t know).  I mean it just is not that serious.  Don’t get me wrong, I’ll be the one of the first to get in my son’s grill if he is not performing up to his capabilities ( I guess that is the coach in me)…but I won’t go overboard….when dealing with 11-13 year olders you have to know your limits.  I know everyone wants a winner….me too, I can’t stand to lose….and those that know me will tell you that I am the consummate competitor, but you still have to understand that these children are still learning the game.

Okay…here we go…#1 is my namesake so I will call him Dew Jr….we call him DJ for short.  This dude has a crazy amount of talent, but he can sometimes be lazy.  He is not a practice player….I repeat…He is not a practice player.  We moved to this school system just about two years ago when he was in fifth grade.  He has always played football and baseball, but he hasn’t played for the football for the past two seasons.  Number one because he played running back and has taken a ton of hits for basically four years.  He started playing when he was in kindergarten.  Number two, I just did not want him to get burned out on it.  Giving him a season or two off rested his body and also made him hungry to play.  Finally, my wife was getting sicker, so we just didn’t have the time to shuttle back and forth between practice.

Let me speed this up a little….so there is your background.  Now it is football season and he is ready.  He wants to play for his Middle School team…I’m like cool….I’ll support him with whatever he wants to do.  It is August and we hadn’t received anything about the start of football conditioning….so I call up to the school and they had actually started practice.  They were three days into it.  I talk to the coach and I get him to practice….so he is at a disadvantage…he didn’t grow up through this football program and he is behind the 8-ball with conditioning.  Mind you that he has always played running back and linebacker….so the coaches take one look at him and they change his position.  Dude is thick though…really solid.  He is going to start lifting weights with me this off season….He is already strong as all get out, so man you can imagine.  He is pretty upset that they changed his position, but the coaches did not know him.  Fast forward now, they are two weeks into practice and he is doing just enough to get by…so the coaches throw him on Red team.  The Red team is basically second string…they call their first team Black….okay…I’m really trying to speed this up.  I go to just about all of his practice.  I just park and watch from a distance.  I really just observe…I watch everything.  I only offer my opinion IF DJ asks me what did I see or what can he change.  He actually does a great job asking for advice.  I basically lay back UNLESS he is just lallygagging….and then I will call him on it after practice….but that is few and far between.  I would notice that it is this one coach that is always talking to him…literally after every play.  So I asked DJ what was going on…he said the coach was helping him out.  If you ever have coached before you see things in certain players….you tend to stay on them more…that is just the nature of the beast.  DJ had been out of football for two seasons now, so it was kind of hard from him to get adjusted  back to the speed and violence of the game.  He has the body for it, but those muscles had not be worked like that in awhile.  Even though he stayed active by playing baseball (I actually think he is better in baseball), the level of intensity is miles apart.  Conditioning was hard for him.  He would come home sore and limping….just worn out.  All the running and conditioning took a toll on his body….and the fatigue was affecting his judgment too….but as the days passed, things started to get easier for him.  The drills and conditioning started to help….but he was like in this stagnant place…while some of the other players were progressing he was progressing but not moving at the pace he should be.  That was because of his flying under the radar attitude….doing just enough not to get yelled at.

So I noticed this…and one thing about being a father….there is one thing that I will not tolerate….half doing something.  My children know that I would rather them not do something, then to half do it.  What I decided to do is after practice, DJ would do some extra work at home (I actually run every sprint and drill with him)…about 20-25 minutes are so.  We work on foot agility drills, we run this hill about 15 times outside our place….we do quick sprints to work on speed….you know things to get him moving.  His problem is that he does not pickup his knees when he runs….so he is moving, but not up to his full capability.  Here we are now….After just two weeks of extra practice at home…DJ was named a starter on both sides of the ball for the first game of the season….by hard-work, determination and movement….It is a saying that I frequently use as a coach.  You play how you practice.  If look at a teams practice, that’ll tell you how successful that team is.  This philosophy can be used in any aspect of life…

I say all of that to setup this little bit here…..Movement is part of the evolution process.  You have to be able to move and adapt to whatever your situation is.  He we go now….you see DJ was getting just enough from his coaches.  Even though the coaches tried hard, they only could get him to a certain point…feel me?  DJ needed his father to give him that guidance and direction to push on over the top.  Okay, let me say this in a different way…this is what we do to our Father…we go to other coaches (friends) to seek advice for situations….instead of going to our Father (God) for the ultimate solution.  He conditions us…he makes us move our feet…lift up our knees when we are tired.  One thing I notice about my son…he reacts to his coach, but if I stand up and raise MY voice, he perks up and gets the job done.  We do the same thing….we move when we hear our Father’s voice….commence to marination time.

Stop seeking other coaches for advice….Seek our Father, it’ll make thinks alot easier.



Posted by on September 4, 2008 in Family, Motivational Thursday, My Children, Religious, Sports


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